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I meet with a group of two other men each week to share life, prayers, and to keep each other accountable. One of the challenges I have tried to have for the group is “Are you in the word?”, as in, “Have you been reading the Bible?”. Unfortunately, the answer to that question has not been good for any of us over the past few weeks. This past week Artie raised the question, to a similar answer. So we decided to choose a topic to discuss each week that would encourage us to get back to reading. I agreed that that was a great idea and as a bonus would give me an excuse to start blogging… There is no better way to capture your thoughts than to write them down, and I’ve been meaning to start a blog for a long time. So this is my first blog post on our topic for the week: What it means to be a Christian husband.
Ephesians 5:25-5:33 provides one of the clearest directions to the heart of a husband in the bible:
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Key to these verses is the first. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”. Of course, Jesus loved the church so much that he gave up his own life. I think that one of the greatest things I’ve learned from being both a husband and a father, is how to put my own self aside and to sacrifice my time and my own desires for my family. This is a different kind of sacrifice than laying down my life, but if it ever came to that, I would gladly lay down my life to save my wife. Its funny of course, because when you first get married, you are not thinking I’m going into this make sacrifices to create a better life for my wife. Its more of, “How will this be good for me?”. I’ll have someone to spend time with, cook dinner, clean the house, make love to… all good stuff for me right? You aren’t thinking, I’ll have someone to challenge my unhealthy behaviors, clean the bathrooms for, get up in the middle of the night to take care of the children so she won’t have to, do chores because acts of service are her love language, and give up skiing every weekend so you can spend time with her and the family for. Marriage comes with great joys, but also a lot of responsibility. But living through it all, you realize that life is not all about you. In this way I believe God uses marriage to chisel away some of the selfishness in our lives and lead us closer to him. Overall a good thing I would say. :)